Most dating advice says you’ve got to be discreet with your relationships at work. That's crazy. Keeping it a secret only makes it seem like a big deal when co-workers inevitably find out. Tell a couple of people, and let company gossip do the rest. Of course, don’t flaunt it either. Remember: A coverup looks worse than a crime, especially when there is no crime to speak of.
I think dating a coworker can get awkward if the staff finds out, because I wouldn't want to be a topic of gossip. It can also be awkward if they do know. I wouldn't want everyone in my business. I prefer to keep my personal life separate from my business life. However, I think dating a coworker can be a great way to meet someone. Most couples that I know met each other from their places of work. It makes sense since that is where you spend most of your time.
Obviously we should weigh our options and act responsible but things like love cannot always be planned. I have experienced dating a co-worker and although exact professionalism couldn't be maintained between us around the clock, romance in the air was a morale booster. This might not always be true, if your love life takes a toll on your work or vice versa, you have to stop , think and re-organize your life. : - )
I like the way you think. It's one thing to be attracted to someone but another to be in a relationship that can survive working together and not letting personal issues bleed over into the work environment. I think that's why the military has a code of conduct that covers relationships. They know that bringing your personal life to work with you can make for bad situations. With all the sexual harassment awareness that companies were doing in the late 90's I'm amazed that anyone would even attempt to date in the work place any more.
You have a point, Taimoor, but I guess you also have to weigh things out in your head, and not just go with what your emotions tell you. Like all other stuff, relationships, whether they are just beginning or are already ending, have consequences. It would be a shame if you had to work elsewhere because of it.
True. Before you go into a relationship, it sounds bad or mechanical, but you really have to consider the consequences if the relationship fails. This is why it's almost always a bad idea to go out (or worse, sleep around) with the boss...
SaneIT has a point. If the company you work in is small, then chances are any relationship you have will affect everyone else in it. Not a very smart move, career-wise.
I think romance at workplace is the wild idea i usually tend to go for. But i have to admit a little mixing of pleasure with business is definitely inevitable in these cases. Now i prefer to date outside office because that way you can truly leave work back when you're with that special someone and there's is a better separation of business..from pleasure. Though If you're secretly crushing on a co-worker it has a change to bring down your performance as you can't help being distracted, so ask her out. It's always upto the individual how he takes the two things along.
I guess it depends on the office/company. I met my wife at a large company working in a department that could have qualified as it's own small/medium business. If you're in a company with less than 25 employees I wouldn't even try dating inside the office. There is no where to hide if things go wrong.
I met my wife at work, 19 years ago. It wasn't a data center though and we only worked together for a short time. Office romances can go well under the right circumstances but they can go horribly wrong under others. I've seen a few examples of both.
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